Lowering the Power-Discrepancy in Therapy

Something therapists are quick to learn about when they are in graduate school is the inherent power imbalance between them and the people they help. Like James Van Der Beek points out, "I think anybody with an insecurity, which is everyone, appreciates the fact that it's much easier to be a predator than it is to be prey." While not as hostile of a relationship as prey and predator, the therapeutic relationship carries within it very different roles. I get to sit in my chair, with a relative ease, because this space is meant to help you feel comfortable being vulnerable, and I’m not asked to do so. Being vulnerable means carrying less power, being at risk of getting hurt, letting your guard down. This is why therapists are very conscientious of the power differences in the room, because that vulnerability is necessary for healing, and must be treated carefully. I try to even the playing field a bit, showing up with my flaws and humanness, asking your permission throughout the session, and encouraging you to exercise some power over your environment, making yourself more comfortable. So, I urge you to find someone you can trust to keep you safe when you lay down your shield - you need to allow yourself to be vulnerable, and you need to set yourself up for success when that happens.

"I think anybody with an insecurity, which is everyone, appreciates the fact that it's much easier to be a predator than it is to be prey."

~ James Van Der Beek