The Importance of the Therapeutic Relationship

It surprises most people to learn that the biggest factor that contributes to therapy being successful is the quality of the therapeutic relationship. Not the techniques or expertise. Some therapeutic modalities contribute that to feeling seen or understood, there being an emotional connection, feeling safe while expressing vulnerability, or therapeutic attunement. With whatever words you use to describe this phenomenon, it is undeniably important. Like Helen Keller shares: "Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light." You need to feel a closeness with the therapist that is there with you. It doesn’t need to be a mutual relationship, like how a true friendship works, but it needs to be a relationship where you know that this person authentically cares about you, and that they will try their best to keep you safe and away from harm. This is why it is vital to really look into the person you start therapy with, to see somewhere that this person gets you, that you both click. That connection is worth spending time and money to get, because it ultimately achieves greater outcomes.

"Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light."

~ Helen Keller